On Imperfection…

Sometimes, things just don’t go so well… and that’s O.K.

The modern global culture, especially social media culture, is obsessed with an unattainable standard of perfection. From the perspective of the outsider looking in, everyone is on cloud 9. It’s no wonder that this causes severe cases of anxiety and depression over time, as individuals come to believe that they are the only ones left behind in imperfection.

Imperfection creates character in our lives… it’s the spice that turns out a little too spicy, and is therefore memorable. What are we, if not a compilation of broken pieces fused together? Whole, but imperfect.

Yesterday, a friend of mine told me she’s “a buzz kill”. This is why she doesn’t want to spend time with others lately. I thought this was both alarming and funny… but not in the “ha ha” sort of way. We don’t see each other clearly. If we did, we would know that everyone is carrying a burden and hurting, one way or another. Perfection is not real. Would we even want it to be? What’s the fun in that?

Today, another friend brought up the fact that everyone our age seems to be spiraling forward to the next new and big adventure in their lives. Feeling the pressure from all of the change she’s witnessing, she is questioning whether she’s falling behind. Is there such a thing? No matter which way I slice it, it seems to me that we are all always just in time. The right time is just different for everyone.

People who know me personally and read my blog say the funniest things to me… “How did you figure all this out?” they ask.

Here’s the great secret… If you were paying attention, you would have seen it repeated in several posts… We are all winging it! 

We are all learning and we’re all in this together.

We all have good days and we all have bad days.

We all need help.

And guess what… not a single one of us is perfect.

The truth is that perfection is a farce. Anyone who preaches that “perfect is possible” is lying to you. In fact, not only are they lying, but they are also misleading you. The goal here is not to be perfect. The goal is to be happy, and to know that you are not alone in this world. There are others out there who think like you, who worry like you, who feel like you, and fear like you. There are others out there who fight like you.

We’re all in this fight together. Our job is to create a safer world for you, for me, and for them.

That’s better than perfection.

That’s love.

And remember… we design our own luck! 

M.

3 thoughts on “On Imperfection…

  1. Great post! It’s so important to remember that whatever we do isn’t always going to be perfect. I suffer badly with anxiety and a lot of that stems from comparing my life to that of others & it’s easy to forget that the majority of the things we see about others lives are whitewashed to show the best, never the worst.

    I’ve just started a blog of my own and it would be great if you could check it out if you get a chance 🙂
    Looking forward to your future posts 🙂
    x

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    • Thank you! I think everyone can relate to this on some level. I used to start a new notebook, Word document, or WordPress post, stare at the blank page for a few minutes, and then give up because I could not think of the “perfect” thing to write. I had severe writer’s block for years as a result of this pressure to achieve perfection. This blog is working out better because I decided that I would publish something new during every morning commute to work, no matter what. The posts are largely unplanned and I have 30 minutes to come up with something. Giving up on the aim for perfection means I can actually publish authentic content that people actually seem to like, and there’s no pressure to be like anyone else. I’m glad you’ve decided to start a blog too and look forward to your posts!

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      • That’s such a great mind set and a great way of blogging! I’m hoping now I can actually stick to it and be consistent, writing is such a passion and I hate it when it has to come second best to other things. Keep up the great content 😊 x

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